"Do you have a boyfriend?"
That common question that gets asked to just about every single girl at some point in her life. Oddly enough, it keeps getting asked earlier and earlier, even to girls in middle and high school. It's also the question that just about every single girl usually dreads. The question us single girls are tired of hearing.
After I turned sixteen years old it became so much more common to hear this question asked to me. Friends, family, people I knew years ago, strangers, you name it. It's the question everyone wants to know the answer to because the world is obsessed with this Hollywood idea of "love."
We've been taught it from a young age. We've been trained since we were children that someday our prince charming would come and rescue us and until he did we would just have to wait for him. Or worse. The world today now teaches girls that if our prince charming hasn't come along yet, we need to go find him and take control ourselves. We are taught to act, speak, dress, and flirt in a way that draws the attention of the opposite gender. You don't have a boyfriend? Well, change your wardrobe or hairstyle a bit and maybe he'll come knocking on your door. Or so they tell us.
Maybe that's why us single ladies hate this question so much. Because if we answer "no" to the question of whether or not we have a boyfriend, we know the dreaded follow up question that is bound to come next.
"Well, why not?"
Although casual dating is kind of a newer thing, wasn't around a couple hundred years ago, it's now considered the "normal," and it's "weird" if you aren't casually dating or you don't have a boyfriend. So naturally if you are single the world is going to wonder why. Most people will mean well and even genuinely want to help. Yet this question still brings up dread in the heart of the single girl.
Because the truth?
We sometimes wonder it ourselves, don't we? We ask this question ourselves in the back of our minds. Why don't I have a boyfriend? Is something wrong with me? Why doesn't anyone want to date me? Will anyone ever love me?
If not kept under control, us ladies can begin to panic, wondering why we actually don't have a boyfriend, and eventually begin to critique all the things that we think are wrong with us.
I'm 20 years old and I've never had a boyfriend.
According to the world that's pretty weird (Let's be honest here though, most of my life is weird to the world...). And trust me, if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me if I had a boyfriend, I'd be rich by now. Now if you think you can handle it, I'll even share something that probably makes me even weirder...
Not only have I never had a boyfriend, but I also don't believe in casual dating either. Yep, I expected shock for a reaction.
You see, beautiful friend, your don't have to chase after boy after boy trying to find a love that will satisfy or trying to keep up with the world's idea of love. Casual dating is just that, casual. It includes no commitment. Someday if God wills that I get married, I want to enter into a dating/courting relationship with the mindset being commitment. Because I know that God says I'm priceless. You're priceless too. So here are 5 reasons why having a boyfriend should not be your only goal...
1. Your single years are a gift. Oh, sweet girl, your singleness is such a beautiful gift given to you right now. Every season in our lives is unique and beautiful, and singleness is no exception. If you are single right now, God has a very important reason for that. If He wants you to get married one day, He will and He will bring that right man into your life at the perfect time, His time. So for now, your goal is not to chase him down and find him. Your goal is not to pursue him or flaunt yourself to win his affection. Your goal is to use your time wisely. You're young. You only get these years once. You won't be this young forever. Why don't you use this time to do something great for God? Start a ministry for girls, begin a Bible study, write a book, invest in your siblings, learn how to cook (I'm still working on this one...). Use your single years wisely because they are a gift to you and a gift that you only get once in your life.
2. You already have a Prince. When you make finding an earthly love your only goal in life, you leave no room to pursue your true Lover. You see, the true Lover of your soul has been pursuing you since the day you were born. He has quietly been wooing you with His love and giving you reason upon reason to fall in love with Him. He is crazy about you. His love is the only thing you will ever need. His love is all that will satisfy you. When Jesus Christ died on that cross to rescue you, He was saying that He loved you more than anything else and would give everything up just to be with you forever. When you are secure in His love for you, that's when you understand that you don't have to have a boyfriend to be satisfied. You are satisfied in your true Prince. Use the time you have now to invest in your relationship with Him.
3. Your worth does not come from a boyfriend. This is a big one, girls. So often it can be easy for us to place our worth in man. It can be easy to convince ourselves that if we don't have a boyfriend, we aren't worthy of love or we are worthless. Listen closely to me as I cup your chin in my hands and look into those beautiful eyes of yours. Your worth does not come from any boy. Your worth comes from Jesus and He says you're priceless. He says you're worth dying for because He loves you. No man or person can take that from you.
4. Having a boyfriend is not the only reason you're alive. Honestly, neither is getting married. While both of these things are good things in God's timing, they are not why He created you. They are not the only reason you are alive on this earth. If these good things are in God's plan for your life, they will happen in His perfect timing and they will be a part of His perfect plan for your life. But your goal in life, the reason you are alive, is to honor your Creator. The reason you are here is so much bigger than yourself. Your goal should be to bring glory to His Name (Psalm 115:1). Your purpose should be to follow His will, whatever that may be in your life.
5. There's more to life than just boys. If you disagree, then your life is very boring. (Quote taken from the amazing Rachel.) It's so true, ladies. Life is not just about boys, falling in love, and getting a boyfriend. There's a giant big world out there to adventure in and discover! You've got goals, dreams, plans, adventures to live! Life is super exciting. I look back on what God's done in my life over the last several years and I'm amazed at the adventure He's led me on. If I was so focused on getting a boyfriend, I might not have had the time or energy to experience this great journey God has for me right now. He's got an adventure for you too, beautiful princess.
Girls, no boy will be able to complete you, so don't spend all your time trying to find one that will. The only One able to complete you already has. He calls you His princess. He has given you a gift right now of this moment and He wants you to live it to the fullest. It's not time to whine or sulk about wanting a boyfriend and it's not time to go out and flirt until you find one. It's time to embrace your princess identity and enjoy every moment of your life. It's time to celebrate.
Oh, and the next time someone asks you if you have a boyfriend?
You tell them you already found your true Prince and His Name is Jesus. ♥
It seems like just yesterday I turned thirteen years old.
I remember how excited I was. Finally a teenager. That lovely age where you're growing up. No longer a child, but not an adult yet either. A sometimes confusing, frustrating, yet beautiful age.
Now here I am today, at the dawn of turning twenty years old.
After today, I will no longer be a "teenager." My teenage years have come and gone.
I look back on the last seven years of my life and I'm amazing at how quickly they flew by. I ponder the fact that life is a vapor (James 4:14) and our days are numbered. They do not last forever. Time is a ticking clock that doesn't slow down for anyone.
The one thing about being young is that we feel we have our whole lives ahead of us. We think we have so much time. The common saying among teens today is "You only live once."
And that's right. You do only live once. But it's wrong, because it teaches that we can do whatever we want and not worry about the consequences because we can live however we want to. After all, when you're young you have so many years left to live well, don't you? Maybe. You don't know that.
The honest truth is that you don't know how many days you have to live.
You could die tomorrow. You could die in an hour. You don't know.
Yes, you may very well have your whole life left to live and may not die until you're old and have lived a long life. But what if you don't?
Would you be happy with the life you have lived?
It is so easy to put off stuff until tomorrow. Tomorrow is like a beautiful lie that we convince ourselves is ours to claim. We claim control of our lives and try to be our own master by treating our futures like they are certain. When they aren't.
We convince ourselves, "I'm too young to make a difference. I'm only a teenager. God couldn't use me. No one will take me seriously. I need to wait until I'm older to make a difference. When I'm older, then God will use me."
Oh, sweet friend, won't you let me tell a truth that is crazy awesome.
God wants to use you. Right now. Today. No matter how young you are. No matter how old you are. No matter how inadequate you feel. No matter what your past looks like. No matter what your fears are for your future. God wants to use you right here in the middle of your beautiful mess.
Because the great news?
He looks at your beautiful mess and He sees a story He has written waiting to be told. And this story doesn't begin when you turn 20, when you stop being a teenager, or when you become an adult.
No, this story is happening right now in front of us. Every moment God is whispering to you and asking you to join Him on the great adventure He has for your life. Right now He is asking you to let Him use your youth for His glory.
Time goes fast. Trust me, I know. When I was a young teenager--thirteen, fourteen, fifteen--I struggled so much with wanting to be grown up so I could "change the world." I wanted to do something big and great for God. I didn't think I could do that until I was older and so I wasted away my days dreaming about "tomorrow" when I would be old enough for God to use me.
Please, don't do that.
Please, don't waste your youth waiting to be older, waiting for God to use you. In the most mundane of tasks, God can use you to change someone's life, so don't you dare say for a moment that God can't use you right where you are. Because I promise you that He can. And He wants to! That's the amazing part of it. He doesn't need us, He wants us.
By God's grace I've published four books, started my own magazine ministry, created a blog, and have had other wonderful opportunities during my teenage years. God has been so amazing to me. I look back on what He has done, not just in the last seven years, but over my whole life, and I am blown away by His love for me. He loves to give good gifts to His children. He loves to give good gifts to you.
This is my challenge to you today.
Seize your youth. Seize today. Look to Jesus and ask Him what He wants you to do today to bring glory to His Name. What if it was your last day to live? What would you want to do today to show Him how much you love Him before you see Him face to face?
Serve Him today. Serve His people. Love Him today. Love His people. Glorify Him in everything you do. Let Him use your youth to do something amazing, something only He could do. You are not too young.
He has created you for this moment, right now. Seize it.
Make today amazing for Him, before today is yesterday. ♥
Hi, lovelies! I'm so sorry to do this but I have an Instagram live to get ready for in twenty minutes so I must end the party for now :( All of you can feel free to continue chatting if you'd like!
Thank you all so much for coming though and I so apologize for the delay and the short party and not being able to comment much! :( I hope you had fun anyway ♥ I loved celebrating this day with you all!
I will be posting a blog post later about why I published my book today, so stay tuned for that! ;)
Love you all!
Okay, girls, who wants a giveaway to celebrate?! :D
My computer is still not working right, so I'm trying to type this quickly before it stops working completely haha. xD So don't think I'm ignoring your comments, I just can't get to them at the moment!
So this giveaway is a big giveaway for all of my social media people! There are several ways you can enter. Each way you enter counts as an entry into the drawing so the more entries, the greater chance you have. ;) I'm using all forms of social media so don't worry if you don't have all of them. :)
The grand prize winner gets a copy of "Yes, You Can," AND a copy of my first book, "I Dare You"! The second winner will receive just a copy of "Yes, You Can." It will be a random drawing for each winner!
Now here are all the ways and methods you can use to enter! :) Make sure you contact me and tell me which ways you entered, so I know how many entries to give you!!
1) Give me one Bible verse you think sums up the message of my book that says "yes, you can do this!"
2) Share my blog link with one friend.
3) Share in a comment below why writing is important to you.
1) I'll be posting a post later about this so wait for that post, but when it goes up, tag two friends in the comments.
2) Post a picture with one of my books and tag me in it.
1) Share my cover image for "Yes, You Can" to one of your boards!
1) I'll be posting a post later about this so wait for that post, but when it goes up, tag two friends in the comments who love to write.
1) Share a picture of you with one of my books to your story.
1) Retweet my tweet about "Yes, You Can" being available now!
1) Share my post about "Yes, You Can" being available now.
2) Share picture with one of my books and tag me in it!
Yay! It's that time! Time to celebrate the release of my brand NEW book that came out today "Yes, You Can"! :) I'm super excited you've come to join me today and we'll be having lots of fun! :)
I'm sorry this is a bit late. Unfortunately, I am running behind schedule and rushing around so if I don't get to reply to all of your comments, please forgive me. :) Thank you for coming, I so appreciate it <3
To start this party right we're going to have a quick Q&A! Ask me anything you want about writing, publishing, my books, or just whatever, haha! :) Also let me know who you are and that you're here! Shortly I'm going to be posting some giveaway details!
And a one-sided Q&A is no fun so here are some questions for YOU to answer too! :)
1) Have you read either of my books and if so, which was your favorite?
2) What is your favorite Bible verse?
3) What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
Let's do this! It's time to party! ;)
Yes, You Can: A Guide to Writing and Sharing Your Story.
To God be the glory. ♥
TOMORROW is release day for my fourth book, "Yes, You Can"! If you are a writer this is my message for you that I want you to know more than anything, that yes, you can do this. This book was written for you. And tomorrow we're going to have some fun celebrating! :D
Join me over at my Instagram account (@thekingsprincessmagazine) at 6:30pm for an Instagram live where I will be sharing why I chose to release my book tomorrow. If you cannot make the live, I have written up what I am going to share into a blog post and will be posting it here at 8:00pm.
I will also be here at my blog at 5:30-6:15pm for a short, fun blog party! It won't be much, but we can still share some cupcakes and have some fun! ;) I will do a Q&A answering questions about writing, publishing, my book, or just whatever you want to ask me. :)
And stay tuned tomorrow on all of my social medias and here on the blog for some ways that each of you can be entered into a big drawing I'm holding to win an autographed copy of "Yes, You Can"! :D
Soli Deo Gloria ♥ See you tomorrow!
Have you ever been faced with a circumstance that threatens everything you know? Maybe it shakes up your world a bit and leaves you feeling confused and unsure of what to do next. Maybe it's a seemingly impossible task that you don't know how to accomplish or defeat.
Those moments are always the hardest to have faith, aren't they?
I'm not talking about having faith in the sense of believing in God for salvation. I'm talking about faith to believe that God is really who He says He is, and faith that believes He really does love you, even when it's hard to see. A faith that believes God is good and everything He does is good. A faith so radical that we know whatever happens, He will still be good.
One of my favorite chapters in the Bible (I say this a lot, I know), is Hebrews 11. Of course the whole chapter is eye-opening and amazing, so you should totally read it yourself, but I wanted to share with you today just a few of my favorite verses.
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." (verse 1)
"By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to the place which he would receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going." (verse 8)
"By faith Abraham, when he was tested, offered up Isaac, and he who had received the promises offered up his only begotten son." (verse 17)
I love these verses about Abraham. He gets like six or seven verses dedicated to talking about his faith in this chapter! Wow. What a faith he must have had. And if you look at his story you see just how amazing his faith actually had to be. How strong his trust in God was.
You know the story of Abraham almost sacrificing Isaac, right? You probably have, but let me give you a quick recap of the history behind this story.
So Abraham and his wife Sarah are pretty old at this point and they've waited a long time to have a baby and they still haven't had one. No kids. But God told them that one day He would give them a son and Abraham would be the father of many nations. Although he had to wait a long time to see this promise come to life, he had faith that God would keep His promise. Because, friends, God always keeps His promises. Finally, Abraham and Sarah have their son and they name him Isaac.
Then one day, a long time after this, God asks Abraham to go to a mountain and offer Isaac, his only son, as a burnt offering.
Yeah, I would be like "Okay, God, I think I heard You wrong, can You repeat that please?"
But Abraham doesn't.
Actually Abraham doesn't say anything. He doesn't say a word. He doesn't ask why. He doesn't hesitate. He just goes and sets out to do what God asked him to do.
If you want you can read the whole story in Genesis 22, but basically after Abraham goes to the mountain and ties up Isaac and is getting ready to sacrifice him, an angel of the Lord stops Abraham. God was only testing his faith to see how much he truly loved Him.
Okay, so I don't know about you but I would've not exactly had the faith Abraham had. I mean if that was my kid, my only kid, the heir to the promise God gave me, I'm pretty sure I would've been asking God some questions.
Sometimes I think we can make the mistake of looking at a story like this and thinking that Abraham was a super spiritual guy who probably knew exactly how everything was going to turn out and maybe that's why he had the faith he had.
But guess what. Abraham was a man, a human. Just like you and me. In that moment when God asked him to sacrifice his son, he had no clue what was going to happen. He couldn't see the future. All he knew was that God asked him to do something and he was going to obey God by faith, no matter how risky or scary or hard it was.
And you know what else?
You can have that kind of faith too.
Abraham had a promise from God that he was holding onto. He knew God was good and God kept His promises. And Abraham was holding onto that in faith so that he could have the courage to obey and trust God no matter what.
Friend, He's given you promises too.
He has promised to never leave you nor forsake you, no matter what happens (Hebrews 13:5). He has promised that He has a good plan for your life that will give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). He has promised that His love will never end (Jeremiah 31:3). These promises are life changing!! Don't you see? When we believe His promises, we know that we can trust Him no matter what happens and no matter what He asks of us. Because He loves us, He has a plan for us, and He is so good to us.
Don't you want that kind of faith too? That faith so strong that it gets talked about and passed on through the generations?
All you have to start doing today is telling God that you trust Him. And then you must act on that trust.
What's He asking you to do today that requires you to step out in faithful obedience? What is He asking you to do today that requires you to trust Him, even if it doesn't turn out how you planned?
Won't you trust Him and have faith in His promises through it?
Here are some more verses from Hebrews 11 that are super special:
"And what more shall I say? For the time would fail me to tell of Gideon and Barak and Samson and Jephthah, also of David and Samuel and the prophets: who through faith subdued kingdoms, worked righteousness, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, quenched the violence of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, out of weakness were made strong, became valiant in battle, turned to flight the armies of the aliens." (verses 32-34)
These crazy amazing stories of faith you hear about through the Scriptures? God can do that in your life too. He can stop the mouths of lions in your life, quench the fire of the trial you're walking through, and make you valiant for the battle He asks you to fight. He can do all of that.
All you have to do is have the faith and believe that He can.
And by faith, nothing will be impossible for you.
Yay! Everyone, it's that time of year again! The super exciting time of the year for 7-18 year olds when National Bible Bee registration opens!! And this year participant registration opened on April 1 and ends May 31! But the time to register is NOW and I totally encourage you to do just that! :)
This year the summer study lasts from June 5-July 28! The contestants will take their local test between August 3-5th and the Local Proclaim Day will be between August 11-16th! Super exciting dates for the Bible Bee family! :D
And friends, this year I want to issue a challenge to you if you're between the ages of 7-18 years old. I want to challenge you to do something different with your summer this year, even if it's a little bit outside of your comfort zone. I want to invite you to join the Bible Bee family this summer and embark on an adventure that will change your life in so many ways. You might have your list of reasons for why the Bible Bee wouldn't work for you this summer, and my challenge is this: Do it anyway. Because the secret of this adventure is that you're not doing this for some competition. You're not doing this to get an earthly prize. Even though those things are great parts of the Bible Bee. You're doing this because when you spend a summer immersed in the Word of God, you are going to be changed. You will not walk away the same person as before, because God's Word is life-changing. It has nothing to do with the competition, because the competition isn't going to change you. It's God's Word that will change you as you study it to dig up it's eternal treasure and hide it in your heart that you can use it to fight against the enemy's attacks in your life. I mean, honestly, what other competition gives you the opportunity to dedicate an entire summer of your youth to being a student of the Word of God? The Bible Bee is pretty special and I would love it so much if you would join our family.
I was thirteen-years-old when I signed up for my first journey with the National Bible Bee and I was fourteen when it began. And choosing to walk this adventure was the greatest decision I made in my teenage years. Because it wasn't just a decision to sign up for a competition. It wasn't just a decision to study and make Nationals. It was a decision to step into a closer relationship with God so that He could change every aspect of my life. It was a decision to fall in love with Jesus deeper during my teenage years.
Will you make that decision too? Will you make that decision to become of student of God's Word this summer?
Those years of 7-18 go by fast. Too fast. Trust me, I know. It seems like just yesterday I was fourteen, doing Bible Bee my first year, and now I am almost twenty and a Local Host. Even if your summer is going to be busy I challenge you to sign up and just spend twenty minutes a day studying. It will impact the rest of your year and the rest of your life. These years of our youth set a foundation and patterns for the rest of our lives, so we need to begin today to set healthy quiet time with Jesus patterns and put His Word first in our lives. Doing Bible Bee helped me to create that in my life during my teenage years and develop that pattern as Alumni of the Bible Bee too.
Okay, you don't have to listen to me ramble anymore! ;) Go sign up!!! Registration is open NOW! Do it today! Don't forget! I'd love to know if you're registering, so let me know. :) Also expect to see more posts in the coming months about Bible Bee, how to study, and what to expect and also maybe some more reasons why I think you should sign up today. ;)
Quick note, if you are in Pennsylvania and want to register for the Bible Bee and are not sure which host location to choose, I would absolutely love it if you chose to come to my Local Bee! Being a local host has been an honor and a privilege. Also, our local group has quite a bit of fun if I do say so myself! ;) We'd love to have you join us! Fill out the contact form here on my site for more information or questions on joining my group. :)
And as always, if you have any questions at all about Bible Bee or registering, I'd love to help answer them, so feel free to drop me a note! :)
Register today! ♥
Surprise, surprise!! *throws confetti*
Calling all writers! This is for YOU! The one desiring to write, but not sure how to even begin. The one aching for your words to be read, but having no idea how to get published. This little guide I have created is for you. It's my way of coming alongside of you and encouraging you to keep pressing on, because I believe that yes, you can do this! I want you to believe that too.
I have over ten years of experience in writing and this will be my fourth published book. I wanted to share some of my experience with you by teaching you my tips and advice for writing, editing, publishing, and marketing your book. I have writers all the time ask me how I did it and how they can do it too, so this guide is my way of answering your questions.
"Yes You Can: A Guide to Writing and Sharing Your Story" is officially releasing on April 30, 2017! ♥
More details regarding release day and any special giveaways will be coming soon! Spread the word! April 30th is the date! Let's get excited! My fourth book!
To God be the glory. ♥
Yay! Girls, today is an exciting day! Today the brand NEW issue of Crown of Beauty released!! :D This issue, the BRAVE issue, is super special to me as I was given the honor of leading the team in working on this issue! I love Crown of Beauty so much and it's been a joy walking this journey!
You are not going to want to miss this issue! Where are all my Duggar fans?! Well, this issue features a special interview with the Duggar girls! Super exciting, right? It also features an interview I did with Dawn Michele of Fireflight which was quite the honor! And SO much more! This issue is filled with fun! It includes details on Crown of Beauty's Creative Writing Contest and you're totally going to want to check that out!
I am so excited about this issue and I know y'all are gonna love it too! So go check it out today! ♥
Below is the second place winning story from my story contest, Once Upon a Time! This story, "Day of Salvation" was written by Dani and her bio is at the end!
Once upon a time, I was led from my prison cell. I was roughly marched through damp, cold stone passages and then soaring hallways. Today was the day of my execution.
Like countless prisoners before me, I stepped through the double doors labeled ‘Justice’ and ‘Mercy’. Like countless prisoners before me, I was cast to the white marble floor before my King.
Tears rolled down my face, but slowly my vision focused on the feet before me. The owner of those feet knelt before me and lifted my face.
I caught my breath. It was Him – the one who my soul loved. The one who taught me how to love, how to live. The one I could die for.
I looked into His eyes – what else could I do? The limitless age of time enveloped me like starlight, but one thing only did He who me.
Two children, running through purple fields. Laughing, examining flowers. The little pond in the forest. Voices buried in my memory – “I don’t want to be executed.” The little boy took my little hands in his. “Everyone has to be executed. But I will save you. Do you trust me?”
The King looked into my eyes. “Do you trust me?”
“Yes,” I whispered.
Tears were in His eyes and mine.
“It is finished,” He whispered.
The guards grabbed me. They led me to the place of execution. The King followed.
My mind screamed, begged. I didn’t understand – He said He would save me! But I still trusted Him. All my life I had.
As the guards took aim, my eyes were only on my King. Tears were in His eyes. He closed them, turned from me. His heart broke with mine.
There was a noise, and a shock. Then there was nothing.
Softly, starlight crept upon my consciousness. I was suspended in time. The stars were around me, closing it. Their light penetrated my being.
And then I heard it. “Pardoned.”
I opened my eyes. My King held me in His arms. His robe was wrapped around me, His crown on my head. But on His brow shone starlight – and blood slowly crept across His chest.
“Before Time I pardoned you. Before Time I bore your wounds. Before Time I made you pure – a princess of the King.” He raised me to my feet.
“Welcome to life, my child.”
Dani is the 17-year-old Alaskan with a southern accent. Her first love is music; she sings and plays several instruments including piano, violin, viola, flute, and harp. She has competed in the National Bible Bee for eight years, qualifying for Nationals seven times. Her current dreams and goals include directing and acting in Broadway-style musical theatre and directing choirs. Some of her hobbies are baking, handcrafts such as knitting and spinning, photography, videography, throwing knives and arranging music. She writes an e-magazine for girls at:
It finally came to my attention that I had TOTALLY forgotten to post the first and second place stories from my story contest, Once Upon a Time! I am so sorry!
I am posting them both today however, and to start, this is our first place winning story! Author bio will be at the end. Congratulations, Chloe!!
So without further ado, let me present, "Her Prince is a White Lamb"...
Once upon a time...Gabriella had heard the words so many times: from her parents, the people in the village and from her own friends. They had experienced their own ‘once upon a time’ years ago…but still she waited for hers. With every passing day she wondered if maybe this would be the long awaited day when he would come riding in on his white horse and carry her away in his arms. And still another year would pass and she would go on hoping.
With a deep sigh that came from her innermost soul she lifted the basket into her arms and began her steps back to her home, wishing her parents not to be worried at her late return. As Gabriella neared the small abode in which her family dwelt, she put on her brave face as to not show how she truly felt on the inside: disappointed, anxious and sad. And maybe a little hurt that no man had wanted her.
Days turned into weeks and the weeks turned into months once again…and still no prince charming came to carry her away. With each passing hour her heart became more hurt until she thought that maybe she couldn’t go on. She did her duties at home, went where commanded and came when bidden but none of it could hide what she felt on the inside of her soul.
And then the day came. No, not the one that she had been looking for and awaiting: it was much grander than she ever could have imagined it would be. She had been instructed of her mother to go into the fields and gather some flowers to grace their place for the next few days. And she was doing as told when it happened.
Gabriella had crunched down to better pick the flowers, feeling heavy and alone in her heart, when she looked up and saw someone approaching her. She saw it was a man, his steps coming in an even stride, eyes fixed directly on her. As though in slow motion she straitened herself, basket in her hands, a frown appearing on her face as she stood there; not seeming to be able to take her eyes off Him as he kept His on her.
Who can this be? And why am I so drawn to Him?
His steps brought Him to a stop in front of her and she realized that He wore a bright smile on His face. And His eyes were love, indeed. “Hello,” He spoke, the words sounding like music to her ears, His voice as though it were the sweetest of waters running, covered in love.
Gabriella breathed in deeply as she offered Him a slight nod. “Hello, sir.”
The smile on His face stayed fixed there. “I was wondering if you will allow me a few moments of your time to talk with you.”
A frown then appeared on her face. “Talk, sir?”
“Yes, Gabriella, I would like very much to talk with you if you would grant it to me.” And when He spoke her name it was with such tenderness and love. Gentleness, as though He longed to call her His.
“Sir, do you know me?”
He nodded. “I’ve known you since before you were born.”
Her frown then deepened. His words were very strange, but for some reason they did not scare her or make her uneasy. They only made her want to hear Him say more. “How have you known me from before I was born?”
He gently took another step forward as the sun seemed to shine down and light His face to greater brightness; only, she knew that the light was from His very self and not of anything else.
“Because I am Jesus.”
Hearing the Name caused her breath to catch in her throat. Jesus! The only response she could give at the moment was lifting her hand to her mouth, feeling her hold on the basket began to loosen. “Jesus,” came as a whisper from between her lips, her hand lowering from her face. “If you are truly Him, then why would You come to me? I am nothing but a commoner in the village.”
Jesus reached forward and lifted one of the flowers from her basket, holding it gently in between his fingers, raising His eyes to hers. “You are right in thinking that I want to call you Mine, for I do. But, Gabriella,” He went on as He smiled at her. “You are not a commoner. I died so that you could be called the daughter of My Father. And a child of the Most High God is never a commoner.”
Gabriella lowered her head, feeling sad that she had done something to cause Him to correct her. She had heard of Him and His Father and knew that they were very great indeed, but she had never thought much on them.
He reached out His hand and laid it on her chin, lifting her head back up again. And she saw the love again, shining bright. “I know how you want so desperately to have a man in your life.”
She widened her eyes in surprise, wondering at how He could have known that. “How do You know this thing of me?”
“Remember, I have known you since before you were born. And since then I have seen your every move and heard your every word: known your every thought and heart’s desire.”
With a sigh from her heart she nodded slowly, feeling the hurt that she had felt only a few minutes before returning to her. “Yes, I long for a man. I so want to be married, have a husband. All my friends already have one.”
Jesus looked at her softly. “But that is not the most important thing, Gabriella.”
She frowned. “It isn’t?”
He shook His head. “No. There is something much greater than wanting a husband.”
“What would that be?”
“Giving your heart to me, child, is much more important.”
Gabriella linked her hands together around the basket handle, her frowned face staring at Him deeply.
“If you give your heart to me, than you will be in My Father’s family. Serving God is the greatest thing in the world. It would not come without hardships, for serving My Father will always be met with persecutions. But know that I will always be there with you, to help you and love you.”
Gabriella felt tears stinging her eyes. “Love me?”
Jesus nodded with another smile at her. “Gabriella, I want you to know how much My Father and I love you, for I am Love. We want you to be a part of our family. All you have to do is ask and I will enter into your heart.”
She had waited so long to hear words of love from someone and now she was hearing them, in a much more amazing way than she ever could have thought or dreamed of. He said He would love me.
Jesus held out to her the lovely flower which He held, His smile never leaving. She reached her hand out and took it gently in hers. “If you put your trust in me, Gabriella, I will bring the right man to you at the right time. You don’t have to worry about him coming, just know that when the time is right for you both that I will bring him into your life and you into his. What you can do is pray for him in the meantime.”
What she was hearing was more beautiful than anything that she had heard before. All she had to do was give her heart to Him and trust Him. “And my heart will be safe?”
He nodded. “Yes, if you keep your heart with me-there will be temptations and struggles-I will hold it and keep it safe.”
Gabriella looked down at the flower in her hand, a tear running down her cheek. “I’ll think about it.” She turned to go when His hand reached out and touched her cheek softly. Through her blurred vision she looked back at Him.
“I love you, Gabriella. But know that you are not guaranteed tomorrow or even the rest of this day. But I will be waiting with open arms for you if you come.”
With a deep breath she turned and started slow steps back to the house, her eyes gazing down at the flower she still held. In her mind she could hear all the stories of her friends and their love. And then she remembered Jesus, His words of love, His eyes of love, inside knowing that He truly was love. There was no question in her mind of what she wanted in her life.
Gabriella spun around, dropping the basket from her hands as she did, her steps quickening toward where Jesus still stood. “Jesus!” She called out quickly as she ran.
Jesus moved toward her, His arms open wide and in an instant she was in His arms, her feet off the ground and Him holding her close. She was home, never to leave.
Gabriella was never the same after that and nor was her family when she shared with them her newfound happiness. They, too, accepted Jesus, causing her to be even more joyful. And in the coming years Jesus’ words proved to be true that persecutions would come, for they did. But He was always there, never leaving her side.
Yes, her prince had always been there for her. All she had to do was look up to see Him. And He was more perfect than any man that she had ever longed for. He didn’t ride a white horse for He is a white Lamb and she trusted Him with all that was within her. She was happy and complete in Him.
Oh, what a ‘once upon a time’ she had had! And her Prince and she would indeed live Happily Ever After….
Chloe Hadassah is a eighteen year old farm girl who lives in the Bible-Belt with her nine brothers and sisters and parents! She enjoys blogging at heresclo.blogspot.com and YouTubes at: Becky Coleman's Badge. She will soon be publishing her first book titled The Light, and has a website for it at givegodtheglory.weebly.com She feels God has called her to sing for His glory and right now feels led to also act/produce movies in the future. Jesus means more to her then anything in the world ever could and she longs to live fully for Him!
It’s so easy to look back, isn’t it?
Sometimes it’s a whole lot easier to look behind than it is to look forward. Because, after all, we don’t know what is coming up ahead. So maybe it’s just easier to live in the past.
I don’t know about you, but this is how I feel sometimes.
It can be hard for me to look ahead at a new season or a new future.
And maybe, just maybe, it’s because I fear change? I fear the new?
Well, I’m glad I’m not alone. I can be so afraid of what’s ahead in the new, because what if it hurts? What if it’s different than what I wanted? What if I lose what I love?
Change scares us to the core because we don’t know how it will affect our lives. Most times change is good and gives us a great, totally new way of life. But sometimes change hurts too. And sometimes it hurts so much that we don’t want it anymore. Because embracing change means letting go of what’s behind. It means letting go of something I’d much rather hold onto.
I felt like this not too long ago. I still remember exactly how it felt.
I remember how it felt to come out of a season in my life that I didn’t necessarily want to leave. This season had become my normal, it was comfortable, and I loved it. It was good. So when I came out of it, I still held onto a piece of it. That was my way of looking back, instead of ahead. I held onto a piece of this part of my life because I was too afraid to let go. I honestly didn’t know what life would be like if I did let go.
But God loved me too much to let me keep looking back. He had a brand new thing He wanted to do in my life and the only way for me to step into it, was to let go. So He took away from me what I thought I wanted most, so He could reveal to me what I never knew I needed.
Maybe He’s done that for you too? Then let me encourage you, dear heart. During this time, God gave me a verse that changed everything for me.
“Behold, I will do a new thing, now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” (Isaiah 43:19 NKJV)
Behold, I will do a new thing.
And again He says…
“Then He who sat on the throne said, ‘Behold, I make all things new.’ And He said to me, ‘Write, for these words are true and faithful.’” (Revelation 21:5 NKJV)
He is making all things new.
So this is His promise to me. And His promise to you too, my friend.
He is making all things new. He is restoring what you’ve lost. God will not let anything you have gone through go to waste, but He also does not want you to stay where you are at right now. He wants you to keep looking ahead, to keep looking towards the new He has for you.
You see, the God who made you has an incredible plan and dream for your life. And yes, it will include change. It may include change every step of the way. But the God calling you into the unknown, into this place of change, is the same God whispering to your soul that He is making all things new and that He is doing a new thing in your life.
Don’t allow your fear to keep you from stepping into the future God has planned for you. Even if that means letting go of things you love, even if it means letting go of good things. Keep embracing the new thing God is doing in your life, and keep reaching for the something greater He intends to give you.
Look forward, sweet friend. His new thing in your life is going to be amazing, I promise.
I’m cheering you on.
Have you ever wondered if you measure up to what God wants you to be and to do?
Well, I have.
In my earlier teenage years I went through a season that was difficult for me, because I was constantly striving. Constantly doing. You feel me yet? I constantly tried to follow a list of rules to be a vision of "perfection," constantly trying to obey and never mess up. I constantly tried to earn what I thought was God's favor. I knew He loved me no matter what. But even if I didn't say it out loud, in the back of my mind there was this idea that I needed to do more to earn His favor or delight. And it left me utterly exhausted. Because following a list of rules I'd created for myself still didn't ever make me feel like I measured up.
And I bet you feel it too.
It comes from a system that has become more obsessed with religion than with a relationship.
Yes, I said it.
Religion has actually become a problem in a way instead of a solution or an answer.
Because instead of religion creating a safe place where people could be loved and healed, it has turned into a place where people are judged and held up to a list of standards they can never achieve on their own.
But the truth? We weren't ever called to religion to begin with.
I am a Christian. Saved by grace, redeemed with love, and cherished forever by a King that left His throne to rescue His princess. I am loved infinitely by the God of the universe.
But I am not religious.
Because there is a difference.
Religion has become a list of do's and don'ts that has clouded our thinking. It convinces us that if we follow this rule or that rule, or we don't break this rule or bend that rule, then we'll receive God's favor. It tells us that if we do all these things then God won't be mad at us. It gets us trapped inside of a cycle that constantly has us doing more and more to try to earn what we could never earn on our own. And the biggest problem? Religion has created a feeling of judgment in many Christian circles. Why? Because it makes us think that by doing all these religious things or following all these rules, we're somehow better than others. And sadly, it can cause us to judge those who aren't following the rules we're following or judge those living, speaking, and dressing differently than us.
Trust me, I know. Because I lived it.
I lived that religious life that was all about do's and don'ts and chastening those who didn't look and act and dress just like me. And you know what? It didn't work. In the end, it left me more empty than when I started. And in the end, it left people judged who should've only been loved.
Because here's the truth.
Being a Christian is not about a religion at all or a list of rules. Being a Christian is about a relationship.
Being a Christian is this great love story that will change your life. Trust me, I know this too. Because, by God's grace I've lived this too.
You see, Jesus is calling you to a great adventure with Him. Jesus is calling you to be loved deeper by Him and to love others deeper with His love. That's His greatest commandment. To love others as He loves us. And as we sink deeper into His love, we're able to go into the world and love others despite our differences, despite our disagreements. Because love covers all.
I don't want you to mistake what I'm saying however. I'm not saying that being a Christian is a free ride where you can live however you want and do whatever you want. Sin has consequences. We are called to live a life following Jesus (Romans 6:15). But those rules you try so hard to follow? Examine your heart. Why are you doing them? Because you love God and you want to follow what you feel He is asking of you? Good. But if you're doing it for any other reason, listen close. Those rules are not going to earn you His favor or His love. Friend, you are loved completely and infinitely right now. Right in this moment. God loves you as much on your best days as He does on your very worst days. God loved you wholly on the day He found you and rescued you. Nothing you do can change that. Because His love does not depend on your performance.
You're free, friend. You're free to stop trying so hard. You're free to just rest in who He is and what He has done. You're free to just sink into His love and let it change every part of who you are.
Let go of this try hard life you've created for yourself. Stop judging those who don't look and act and dress like you. Just love them. Because the honest truth is that God loves them like crazy too.
So no, religion isn't the answer to the emptiness in your heart and life, because religion can't fulfill you.
Only a relationship with Jesus Christ can fulfill you and fill your emptiness inside.
So fall in love.
Let go and step into the love that's been waiting for you all along. Who can fully understand His love?
"For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Romans 8:38-39)
He loves you. A crazy, beyond your wildest imagination, unconditional kind of love that will blow your mind.
And nothing can take that away.
Isabella Morganthal (20) is a homeschool high school graduate who loves Jesus with all of her heart. She is a drummer, writer, creative arts director, and modern-day abolitionist.