Today I have a super exciting, special announcement for all the girls following my blog!
*Tosses around some confetti and hands you a cupcake*
First of all, if you've never heard of Morning Glory Ministries and their blog, please go check them out now! Second of all, Morning Glory is getting ready to release their first ever devotional e-book, "30 Days of Surrender" releasing on AUGUST 21, 2017!! Whoo-hoo! I'm so excited about this release because I had the honor of being a part of this project and contributing to the devotional!
30 Days of Surrender is a daily devotional e-book created for teen girls to encourage them to surrender every area of their lives to Jesus. Each day the writer of that day's devotional talks about an area of your life to give over and surrender.
Being a part of this devotional project really touched my life, by working in my heart through the writing I contributed to the project. I'm so excited, I can't wait for release day, and I hope you will join us on this 30 day surrendering adventure by buying 30 Days of Surrender when it releases on August 21!!
To get you even more excited for the release day, today I have a special interview with the founder of Morning Glory Ministries and the mastermind behind this project, Anastasis Faith. :)
Bella: Welcome to my blog, Anna! I’m so excited to have you join us today. To start off this little interview, please share with us just a little bit more about yourself, so readers can get to know you better!
Anastasis: Thanks so much for having me, Bella! My goal is to seek to know my Savior. Because of that, I am passionate about encouraging girls to pursue Jesus with their whole heart. A promise in Scripture that gives me so much hope is Jeremiah 29:13, “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” What a joy to know that God promises to be found by those who seek Him.
Bella: Please, share with us a little bit more about your ministry, Morning Glory. Why did you start it?
Anastasis: I believe I was nine when I decided I wanted to do teen girl discipleship. ;) Obviously I was too young, but God grew me through those years until I started the Daily Devotional three and a half years ago. It grew exponentially from there, leading to the start of the blog about two years ago. I started it because I wanted a platform through which I could encourage teen and tween girls with my writing.
Bella: That's wonderful! When did you first get the idea to begin the 30 Days of Surrender E-book project? What has been the most important thing you have learned through the process of leading this project?
Anastasis: Last Christmas I was brainstorming ideas for an ebook. That one popped into my head. I emailed my friends to see if they were interested in collaborating. No one seemed interested. Then I re-emailed over spring break and since then God has been working miracles to bring this to fruition! The biggest thing I have learned—shocker—is the importance of surrender. When things were moving slow with this project, when this summer turned out to be INSANE, when I was working full time, God taught me surrender. I wanted this project to launch. I wanted to have time to work on all these things. Often, after long days at work, energy was my biggest prayer! God has been teaching me most about surrendering my plans and my time. My original hope was for a June 1 launch. That sounds hilarious now. But God has taught me so much. What a ride it has been!
Bella: What is the most important thing that you want readers to take away from this daily devotional?
Anastasis: My biggest prayer is that readers will learn to trust and obey. That’s what I’m learning. Humanity’s biggest problem is chronic unbelief. We do not believe who God says He is. If we truly believed that He is who He says He is, our lives would look very, very different. Surrendering is about trusting that God is who He says He is and then obeying, despite our ideas of what is best.
Bella: That is so powerful! Thank you so much for sharing. Now, what is your favorite Bible verse and why?
Anastasis: Jeremiah 29:13 is one, as aforementioned. Also is Philippians 1:6, which promises that God will finish what He started in me. I need that promise so often! :) And finally Psalm 119:10, “With my whole heart I seek You; let me not wander from Your commandments.” That last verse is my daily prayer. Jeremiah 29:13 is my daily promise. And Philippians 1:6 is my daily hope.
Bella: To end, please share with us links to connect with you on social media, as well as a link to your website, and where readers can purchase the 30 Days of Surrender e-book when it releases. :)
Anastasis: Definitely! Thank you so much for interviewing me!
My website is MorningGloryPursuingJesus.blogspot.com and 30 Days of Surrender will be available there.
My Instagram is @AnastasisFaith. Thank you!
Bella: Thanks so much for joining us today, Anna! I can’t wait to see what God does with this special project. ♥
Don't forget to purchase your own e-book copy of 30 Days of Surrender on August 21!!
Growing up, I went through so many phases of different things that I wanted to be when I "was older."
A professional ice skater. Thankfully, I realized I was too clumsy for that.
Show jumper on my own horse in the Olympics. I held onto this one a bit longer, but this too I eventually let go of when my horse obsession faded, and God placed a special calling on my life.
A lawyer. Nah, too much college.
A chef. That is until I realized I not only can't cook, but I also strongly dislike it.
So many different ideas, goals, and ambitions.
But the one thing I've always wanted to be in the depths of my heart that has never changed?
I decided that from the moment I held a pen and discovered that I could use it to create stories and worlds that were my own. I knew it from the moment my creativity first got the best of me and I ached to develop characters that only my mind could see. I understood it more clearly from the first time my fingers touched my shiny new keyboard of my first laptop.
From the time I was eight years old, I knew God made me to write.
Of course, I've been writing pretty much since I could hold a pen. But when I was eight? Well, everything changed.
A simple creative writing assignment for homeschool turned into a story that I couldn't get enough of. I had to write more, I had to tell more about the life of this girl I had created on my own. Would anyone read it? Probably not. But did I care? Nope. All I cared about was writing.
Soon enough, however, I ached for others to read my writing. I dreamed of the day I could write and hundreds of people would read it. I dreamed of the day I could type out a blog post and get a response. I dreamed of the day people would hold my words in printed form, the way I held and cherished others books. I dreamed of the day when my writing would not only impact other's lives, but inspire them too.
And if you would've told my young self that I would be standing here today, I might not have believed you.
Writing has been my life and my dream for so many years, that it has become a part of me. Writing is no longer something that I do. But being a writer is who I am.
I'll be the first to tell you...although it is the love of my life, writing is far from easy.
Writing is hard. Writing is messy. Writing is frustrating. And sometimes writing makes me want to give up.
For anyone who thinks that writing is a simple, easy, or small task, you are wrong. To think that writing is an easy job is to be severely misled. Writing is the hardest job that I've ever had.
Yet I would never trade writing for any other job in the world.
With that being said, this is for you...the writer. These are my words to remind you why what you are writing is so very, very important.
You see, maybe you feel like giving up. Maybe you feel like your writing isn't important because you honestly aren't reaching that many people. Maybe you assume you could never make money off of your writing, so you should pursue something else instead. Maybe you think your writing doesn't really matter in the end.
And you, my friend, would be wrong.
Writing is going to take everything you have. But it's going to be worth it.
Yeah, maybe not many people do read what you write. But you know what? Write anyway. You have no idea the impact you could make on the person who does read what you share.
Your writing is important, because writing is a gift from God.
God is the Master Storyteller. He has written the greatest Story of all time throughout history and He made you a part of that story. He is the King of creativity. If God has given you the gift and the calling to write, you must realize the importance of this calling. Every word you right has the possibility of changing someone's life. Sometimes you may hear about the impact your words made, but often you won't.
Your writing is important, because it is your responsibility to give back to God what He has given to you.
He has given you this gift. He has given you this calling. Using your writing for anything less than His glory would be a shame.
Your writing is important, because you have something to say.
The burning message in your heart that you want others to hear? That matters. The words you ache for others to read? They matter. Don't let anyone--especially yourself--tell you otherwise.
I'm telling you right now...what you have to say is important.
So go out and say it.
So maybe today held some things you weren't expecting?
Or maybe everything changed so suddenly you were left wondering how 24 hours could change so much. And maybe you feel so exhausted you don't know what to do next.
Yeah, bravery takes a lot of strength.
It's hard. Being brave, being full of courage, is just downright hard. And some days?
Well, some days we just don't have the strength to face it all.
Because sometimes the scariest thought of all is stepping into what's unknown.
Embracing the unknown moments of tomorrow seems scary enough, but embracing the unknown moments of next month or next year? Nope, no thank you. That takes too much brave.
Sweet soul reading these words right now, I didn't break into your Wednesday evening to tell you a list of ways to step up and do the right thing even when you're scared. I didn't write this post to show you all the ways you could be brave but aren't.
I wrote this as a reminder.
A reminder that brave is your middle name.
Because no matter what you may feel about who you are, it can never change or take away the truth about Whose you are. And the One to whom you belong? Well, I can promise you that He's big enough for any scary moment that tomorrow or your next moment holds.
So yeah that scary step you're not sure you should take? That courage you're not sure you can muster up to step into the unknown?
Take a deep breath and this, this is what I want you to always remember.
You are brave because He is brave in you. And with your God you can scale any wall of fear in your path (Psalm 18:29), and with your God you can defeat any Goliath standing in your way (1 Samuel 17:45-46).
You are brave. You are strong. He has given you just enough courage for this moment.
You got this.
But you can't give up, okay?
God's warriors don't quit and they don't give up. They keep going--they keep on being brave--even when it's hard.
It'll all be worth it in the end.
Let Him be the brave inside of you today, dear brave you.
*I'm linking up with Holley Gerth in her blog linkup this week, and you can check out her lovely post by clicking the button below and also view the other encouraging posts linked as well!*
Hello, lovely followers!
Soooo, as you may have noticed my blog has had quite a bit of revamping done. ;) What do you think? I'd love to hear your thoughts on the new format and look! If you get the chance there's a short survey below. :)
With that being said, I wanted to do a little bit of celebrating on the blog today (we've got a new look and everything, so why not celebrate the blog altogether?)! Did you know that as of today I've published 119 posts since June 11, 2015?! Wow! Praise God! ♥ And thank you, my faithful readers, for continuing to support me and encourage me all this time. I appreciate you!
So without further ado, here are my top favorite posts from the last two years! :) I hope you enjoy them too. Feel free to comment below and let me know YOUR favorite post I've done! I love hearing from you.
They got it, but I didn't.
I didn't mention who or what, but I bet a name and situation came to your mind when you read that sentence.
You see, we can all view life kind of like a competition.
They get the promotion first, so we put them down to heal our disappointment. They are prettier than we are, so we feel the need to make ourselves look better. They have the talent we want, so we criticize to make ourselves feel better.
We think that we have to compete in life to get what we want, and if they get it first, then we lost. And that can leave us feeling a whole lot of broken inside.
Girls, it's easy for us to do this, isn't it? It's easy for us to compete and strive for a level of perfection that we will never achieve. The perfect job, the perfect house, the perfect face, the perfect husband, the perfect dream. But when she gets it first? Look out.
Instead of continuing after what God has set before us, we get distracted by all the things that glitter. All the things the world says we must compete for.
But you know what, beautiful soul?
Life is not a competition.
And you are not competing against anyone.
You're not competing against your neighbor, your best friend, or the pretty girl you run into at the grocery store. Do you want to know why?
Well, let me share with you three areas we tend to compete in the most...
1) Pain is not a competition. Every single person you have ever met has faced some form of pain in their life. I know that you, reading this right now, have faced pain. Because sin is in this world, there will always be pain. There is no way to avoid it. Jesus never promised us a life with no pain. He only promised that through the pain, He would walk with us. But you know how it feels when you feel a little bit guilty over your pain? Maybe you think your story isn't as difficult as someone else. Maybe you think your pain isn't as deep as what that other girl has faced. So you feel guilty about your pain because you're constantly comparing it to others. You don't share your pain then, so it stays bottled up inside where it can never be healed fully. Or maybe you're on the other side of this. You've faced unimaginable pain and it has made you bitter. Pain has a way of doing that to a person when it is not taken to your Healer (Psalm 147:3). Through your glasses of bitterness, you hear the stories of others and you wonder how they have any reason to be complaining when you have suffered so much worse. Whatever side of this you are on, please hear me out. Pain is real. Pain is meant to be fully felt, so it can then be fully healed. If you continue to compare your pain to someone else, you will not heal. He wants you healed, sweet friend. Your Jesus wants to reach in and heal the deep and wounded places of your heart. And you know what else? He wants to use your pain as a testimony to help others through their pain too. So share your pain, share your story, be real. But don't let pain become a comparison game and a competition.
2) Beauty is not a competition. Has the world ever made you feel inadequate? This world has a way of deceiving girls into believing that their bodies and their faces have to be perfect. They give us this standard to live up to that we could never possibly achieve. This causes us to look to one another and compare. Why can't I be as pretty as her? I need to workout more so that I can look like she does. Why does she have to post all those flawless selfies? We fume on the inside over their beauty because we've convinced ourselves that we just don't measure up. We tell ourselves that our hair is too thick, our nose is too big, or we have too many freckles. On and on the list goes as we stand in front of the mirror and criticize every part of ourselves until we have nothing left. And when we have nothing left, we criticize them too. We criticize the girls we feel we are competing against to be the most beautiful. Lovely ladies, may I just take her chin in my hands for a moment and assure you of something? You are absolutely, amazingly, stunningly gorgeous. Because the God who made you? He shines within you, and He made you beautiful. "For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well." (Psalm 139:13-14) You are beautiful, just as your sister in Christ next door or down the street is beautiful. Nothing can take away your beauty, because your beauty does not just come from what you look like on the outside. Your beauty comes from within.
3) Success is not a competition. Maybe this one is the toughest of all, right? Maybe this one is where it stings most. Because when she gets the promotion, the husband, or the dream you've been praying for, it all can seem just a little unfair. After all, we prayed for those things and instead she got them! We feel that her success or her answered prayers are a threat to our own. But the honest truth? Your success is not measured by their's, nor does your success depend on their failure. Here's the thing: we were meant to live in community. So all of this striving, this competing, this comparing, that we do every day to each other...none of it is how we were meant to live. Because the beautiful thing is that God has a perfect and good plan for your life that is so much better than anything you could imagine. So He doesn't want you to compete with someone else for the live He has for you. He is asking you to live out the story He is writing in your life that is so unique to you, it's crazy beautiful! And what He really wants is for all of us to join hands and walk together. To wave the white flags, stop the striving, and just celebrate life together. When she is in pain, to cry with her. When you think she looks more beautiful, to tell her what you love about how she looks today. When she gets the promotion or the dream, to celebrate and have a cupcake in her honor. Because the exciting part? Your celebration is coming too. And it's going to be greater than you ever imagined.
Let's stop competing, and let's join hands as we walk life together, shall we? ♥
Ah, where do I even begin with this book?
Today I'm going to be sharing with you my brief review of my dear friend Livy Jarmusch's brand new novel, "The Coronation."
First of all, if you love fiction and whimsical tales of adventure, suspense, and royalty, then you are going to love this book hands down. And even if you don't like those things? Read The Coronation anyway, because afterwards you will like them!
When I was younger I used to read fiction all the time. I even wrote fiction all the time. However, as I got older, I drifted more towards non-fiction books, writing and reading them. Maybe it's because I just don't have a whole lot of time for reading anymore. Either way, I find it harder to find fiction books now that keep my attention and I don't read it a whole lot.
Well, not with The Coronation.
I was a part of a group of girls who got to be one of the firsts to read the novel and give my input. From the first chapter I was hooked. Literally, I could not stop reading. I would stay up until 12:30-1:30am just to finish another chapter, and then I would get up early to read again! :)
I was captivated by the tale of this royal family and the lovely fictional world of Tarsurella. I loved every single character and thoroughly enjoyed the way Livy went back and forth between the views of each of the characters. It brought a fresh, new dimension to the novel and really brought each character to life. Princess Hope was probably my favorite of the royal family characters (but how can you really choose?!), but Vanessa was probably my favorite character overall. A spunky, passionate, young woman who is visiting Tarsurella, Vanessa is the greatest addition to this book, in my opinion. I related to Vanessa so much anyway just because everything about her personality reminded me of myself!
From suspense, adventure, romance (done very tastefully), humor, and inspiration, this novel really does have it all. So many times I felt like I was actually a part of the story. Livy just captures you into everything about the world of Tarsurella. And maybe what I loved most was the way Livy shared her faith throughout the entire story. If you are tired of wasting your time reading meaningless novels just for fun, and you want to read a novel that is thrilling, inspiring, and encouraging, you'll want The Coronation. Livy shared so many incredible lessons throughout the book. Lessons on forgiveness, trust, guarding your heart, and so much more! I am completely obsessed with this novel! ;)
Okay, with that I'm going to end so I don't continue until I give away all the spoilers! Just get the book for yourself. I know you will love it! Check it out on Livy's blog: www.livylynnblog.com. Or purchase it directly here:
Have fun stepping into the whimsical fictional world of Tarsurella! ♥
Writing has been my life, my love, and my voice since I was a little girl. I couldn't imagine my life without being a writer.
Looking back on the past decade of my writing journey, I have learned so much. God has taken me so far and He has given me so many wonderful people to inspire me and help me in my journey. Nothing in life is meant to be done alone; we were created for community. Because of that I believe strongly in my heart that I want to give back to other young writers the encouragement and advice given to me over my journey as a young writer.
So when my dear friend, Livy Jarmusch, asked me to write a blog post sharing my writing tips, I was so excited! This post is a part of the blog tour for Livy's brand NEW book that just released, "The Coronation"! If you haven't already, go check it out at her blog: www.livylynnblog.com. :)
And now, without further ado, here are my top ten writing tips for young writers...
1) Read. Yes, indeed, this is very, very important. I've been reading even longer than I've been writing, pretty much as long as I can remember. But reading and writing go hand in hand. Reading great books teaches you how to write great books. Reading is a way of inspiring your writer's heart. So if you have a day of no inspiration, or a day flooded with writer's block, just sit down and pick up a book to read. Read, read, read. Some great authors who have inspired and influenced me are: Ann Voskamp, Leslie Ludy, Lysa Terkeurst, and Bob Goff.
2) Just write something. It can be so easy to get distracted from our writing or feel that we need to be perfect to write. So we spend hours outlining our book, planning our characters, or constructing the plot. And while those are good things, sometimes we let them get in the way of just writing. The thing that makes you a writer is writing, so you should do it every day! Be consistent with your writing. It doesn't have to be good. It just has to be on paper. Set aside a specific amount of time each day that you want to work on your writing, and write even if you don't think it's any good!
3) Get connected with other writers. As I said earlier, we aren't meant to do things alone. God created us for community! He wants us to encourage and help each other. Create a writing group with other young writers from your church or school. Join a writing community on Facebook. If you're a blogger, network with other bloggers. Help each other out! When you're a part of a community, you can gain advice and encouragement from more experienced writers. And you even have the opportunity to give back advice and encouragement to writers who aren't as experienced as you are.
4) Do it afraid. Okay, so, something you may or may not know about me is that I am honestly terrified of sharing my writing with others. Yep, it's the truth. Writing is my life and what I know I was created to do. But sometimes our greatest joy and our greatest fear collide to help us discover our greatest calling. That's writing for me. You too? Then, sweet soul, pull up a chair and listen close. If God has called you to write, you are meant to do this. He has given you a pen for a reason. If you let fear stop you from this adventure, you will miss out on so much. It may be scary to show others your writing. It may be scary not knowing what they will think. Be brave. Be brave and share your words anyway. It's going to turn out amazing. ♥
5) Write for Jesus. With all of my heart I believe that if you are not writing for Jesus and His glory, you are writing in vain. He has given us specific talents and gifts to bring Him the honor and glory He deserves. If we write to gain glory for ourselves or to bring attention to ourselves, we are missing out on the most important part of writing. With every word you type, use it to speak the love and truth of Jesus. Let Him be the reason you write.
6) Separate editing from writing. Ouch. This one hits home for me. Here's the thing: I am a perfectionist in my writing. Which means that if I don't think something sounds perfect, I sometimes don't write it. Being a writing perfectionist is tough and it is enough to stop some writers from even writing at all. You see, writing is messy and imperfect...and so beautiful. Words don't change and touch lives because they're perfect, but because they're perfectly flawed. As a reader we aren't looking for something perfect, because sometimes we just want something to assure us that you don't have to be perfect to be beautiful. So when you're writing, don't edit. Just write your words. Let them flow. Don't stop because the words don't sound perfect. There is a time and a place for editing. There is a time to strive for excellence in your writing. But that is after you've already written. Edit later.
7) Find your unique writing style. There are so many different things you could write! Do you prefer creating stories and developing characters? Would you rather write your heart out in an article or a devotional? Do you like creating beautiful sentences through poetry? Whatever it is that you love to write the most, write that. And write lots of it. But what scares you the most to write? Because I want you to write that too. You might not discover your unique writing style or writing calling until you've written what scares you the most. I grew up writing stories. Creating fiction novels was my thing. But when God called me to step out into the scary world of writing non-fiction and articles, it was hard! Yet it was there that I discovered the type of writing I love best. So write lots of different things! And in the process you will figure out exactly what you were meant to write.
8) Start a blog. If you are serious about your writing and growing your writing platform, I encourage you to start a blog. My blog has been a source of so much joy and growth for me in my writing. I wouldn't be where I'm at today in my writing without having started this blog. It was essential for me, as well as a dream come true. Having a blog not only gives you the opportunity to have your writing read by others, but it allows you to grow and develop as a writer. And your blog could be about whatever you want! Maybe you enjoy cooking and you want to have a blog dedicated to cooking. Or maybe you love stories so your blog could include short stories you write each month! You might love writing articles like me, and dedicate your blog to sharing God's truth and love with others. Let your blog reflect who you are and who God has called you to be as a writer.
9) Don't live for compliments. Another ouch for me. Because I'm afraid of what people will think of my writing, sometimes I live for their compliments of what I wrote. Hearing that other people loved what I wrote, makes me love it. If they don't love it, then I don't. And here's why that is wrong: Because not everyone is going to love your writing. Your writing is not going to be for everyone. I've heard it said before that if you live for compliments, you will die from rejection. Decide in your heart that you are writing for Jesus. Live for His applause. And love what you wrote. Your opinion honestly is what matters most. If you love what you wrote, it doesn't matter who else does. Now, the other side of this is that it's totally okay to accept constructive criticism! If you can't accept advice and criticism as a writer, you are not going to grow. It may not always be easy to hear, but you should always listen to advice with an open mind. You can't listen to everyone's advice of course, but you should be willing to learn and grow.
10) Pray. The first thing I do when I sit at my laptop to write, is pray, "Father, write through me today." You'll do your best writing, when you first give it to Him. Develop a team of dedicated prayer warriors who would love to pray over you and your writing project. Cover your writing in prayer and let God do the hard work. :)
Keep writing, dear writer. The path ahead may not always be easy, but it is always worth it.
If you are interested in advice or encouragement as a writer, I'd love to talk to you and share with you, just fill out the contact form here on my blog! I've also written a guide just for writers that can be found at my website: www.isabellamorganthal.weebly.com
Life goes by at the speed of light.
Our schedules are filled to the brim and we're constantly in a rush to do the next thing, to check the next task off our to-do list, to accomplish our next goal.
Surely I'm not the only one.
And if we're honest about it?
It really wears us out, doesn't it? We get so tired of constantly going and pushing forward. We are running on empty and don't know how to get filled again, because we never slow down. We leave ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually drained.
Maybe because we were never meant to do this ourselves?
The to-do lists, the goals, the dreams, the responsibilities, the work, the requirements. All of it. Maybe we weren't meant to do it on our own after all. Maybe the reason we feel empty and like we have nothing left to give is because we've been doing it all in our own strength, only to realize that we aren't as strong enough for it as we thought.
"Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light." (Matthew 11:28-30)
You know what happens when we take everything on ourselves and we constantly give out without taking the time necessary to breathe in His rest? We burn out. We run on empty. We give up.
When we don't take the time to rest in Him, we are putting unnecessary stress on ourselves.
Here's a truth for your soul tonight...you don't have to do it all. Because your worth is not measured by how much you do but by Whose you are.
Remember the story of Mary and Martha in Luke 10:38-42? In this story, Jesus visits the house of His friends, Mary and Martha. Mary chooses to sit at the feet of Jesus and rest in His presence and learn from Him. Martha however is so busy making sure everything is perfect. She's so distracted trying to serve Jesus that she misses out on getting to be with Him.
And that's what we do too, isn't it?
We serve Jesus. We check everything off on our spiritual to-do lists. We pour ourselves out until we're empty and then we keep going until we burn out and give up.
And we miss getting to sit at His feet.
We miss getting to be with Him, getting to enjoy His presence. We miss getting to rest in Him and be loved by Him.
In her frustration, Martha asked Jesus to tell Mary to help her. We do that sometimes too, right? We tell Jesus, "Well if my family would help more with these responsibilities, I wouldn't have as much to do." Or, "Why are so many people in my church leaving me to lead this ministry alone? It's not fair!" We sound like Martha: "Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me." Ouch. She even told Jesus what to do.
But you know what Jesus says?
He doesn't tell her to keep serving. He doesn't tell her to do more. He doesn't tell Mary to help her.
He says so lovingly, "Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her."
Mary chose the best thing. She chose Jesus.
Next time life overwhelms you and your to-do list is off the charts, take a step back, even if only for a few minutes a day. When you feel that burn-out starting to hit and you've got nothing left to give, sit down at His feet.
Come to Him. Rest in Him. Let Him fill you.
His yoke is easy and His burden is light.
Good morning, dear readers! Sooo, I have a *very* exciting post for y'all today! *throws confetti*
On July 6, 2017 my dear friend Livy Jarmusch is releasing her brand NEW novel, "The Coronation." I am so thrilled about this book which makes me super thrilled to get to talk about it! I had the honor of reading one of the first editions of "The Coronation," and was totally captured by the story. I'm so happy to be a part of Livy's blog tour for her novel today!
Anyway, before I ramble too much in my excitement (because I'll be posting my review of the novel on July 15th!), I'll just invite you into the blog today to read an exciting interview with Miss Vanessa Bennett! Vanessa is probably one of my favorite characters from "The Coronation" (it's so hard to pick!), because she is so much like me personally! :)
So without further ado, I present to you a fun interview with Vanessa as we talk about her passions and the beautiful country of Tarsurella!
(Note: Vanessa is a fictional character, for anyone who may be confused by this. Livy and I simply created this interview as a fun way for you, as the readers, to learn more about Vanessa's character and get excited for the book release :) Prince Addison and the Royal Family and Tarsurella are fictional as well and do not represent real people or places!)
Bella: First of all, welcome to my blog, Vanessa! It is super, super fun to have you joining us today and I can’t wait to chat more about your adventure in Tarsurella! To start off, we’d love for you to share just a little bit more about yourself!
Vanessa: Aw, thank you Bella! I am so excited to be here! Yes, my time in Tarsurella was pretty crazy! It was my first time ever being out of the United States, so that was really special to me.
Okay so a little bit about myself? I grew up in New York, upstate. I’m not a fan of the snow. I love working hard and the feeling that comes when you’ve accomplished an amazing task or checked something off your bucket list. I just graduated High School and am currently taking a ‘gap year’ while I figure out what in the world I want to do with my life. (Ha! Good luck, right?)
My parents describe me as “passionate” although I think my personality can be a lot for people to handle at times! I just can’t stand to see innocent souls suffering. I have a huge desire to help the homeless and anyone who is hurting. I also adore animals and desire to see freedom and protection for whales, baby turtles, and other endangered species around the world. Sometimes I can come across as intense or overbearing, but I just have such a strong desire to see the wrongs made right, and justice served!
Bella: That's awesome, Vanessa! What do you love most about Tarsurella?
Vanessa: I’m a huge history buff, so seeing the Palace was amazing. It’s just incredible to think that ancient royals used to walk those very same halls. The Tarsurellian Palace is truly the most impressive and awe-invoking building I’ve ever seen. I think it’s really cool how they’ve been able to preserve the centuries-old rooms and historical artifacts, yet still add on some stylish tourist elements throughout the years. I absolutely drooled over the Queen’s Royal Library! If you’ve never been to Tarsurella you HAVE to go, simply for the sight of that library. Oh my goodness, it was like heaven!
Bella: That definitely sounds like heaven! I mean a castle and a library? I'd be in love! So what made you change your mind to stay in Tarsurella a bit longer and meet Prince Addison?
Vanessa: Meeting Prince Addison was actually a bit of a mistake. It wasn’t like I went on vacation with any intention of meeting the Royal Family. (I mean seriously, it wasn’t anywhere on my radar!) But Miss. Deborah, one of the sweet secretaries who works at the palace, struck up a conversation with me and ended up inviting me to a meeting with him and several other girls my age. Which was crazy! I mean, it’s not every day you stumble into a meeting with the Prince of Tarsurella!
Bella: What was your first impression of the royal family, and most specifically, Addison?
Vanessa: The thing about first impressions, is that there is always room for a second impression. And the Lord knows I needed a second impression of Prince Addison! Um, yeah. Before going to Tarsurella, I kind of despised Addison, his family, and their whole uppity monarchy thing. (Yikes, I’d better be careful what I say. The media can take a phrase like that and blast it all over the internet, completely out of context! I adore the Royal Family now, so please realize that this was all past tense. ;)) But my second impression of Prince Addison (once we actually met) revealed his true, kind nature, and inspiring Godly character. He truly does have a heart to serve the less fortunate, and use his Crown for good. I admire him and his heart for others. If anyone’s going to rock this whole monarchy thing, it will definitely be him!
Bella: Why does it matter to you so much to make a difference for the homeless in Tarsurella?
Vanessa: As I mentioned earlier, if I see someone hurting, I can’t help but do something about it. My heart breaks for those who are in pain, and I can’t go to sleep at night and rest in peace, unless I know that I did something to help those who need it the most. I have a great hatred for apathy, and I believe it has gripped the hearts of far too many in this generation. So many young people are throwing their God-given talents and potential to make a difference, out the window, or burying them in the dirt, refusing to make any kind of change or positive impact. But we have been called to so much more! I truly, truly believe that one person can make massive waves, even in their smallest most loving contribution to those who are ‘down and out’. My Mom always said, “One person can’t change the world. But, you can change the world for one person.”
Bella: I love that! If you could go back and relive one memory from your time in Tarsurella, what would it be?
Vanessa: It would most definitely be The Coronation Ball. ;)
Bella: And how about just for fun, what is your favorite room in the castle?
Vanessa: The Queen’s Library, hands down!
Bella: How do you think your decision to first visit Tarsurella has effected the rest of your life?
Vanessa: Wow. That’s a pretty loaded question! I think that at this point, I’m not even fully aware of all the deep ways that trip has changed me. It gave me a fresh and new perspective on life. In all honesty, it was exactly what I needed. I don’t think a girl can go to Europe and experience such amazing (and sometimes frightful) adventures, and not be completely changed! Not only has my perspective of The Royal Family and their sweet little country changed, but my entire outlook on life, love, and hope has been transformed as well.
Bella: Ending with one last fun question, what is your absolute favorite dessert that you would eat every day if you could?
Vanessa: Oh! SUCH a good question! I typically try to eat pretty healthy (emphasis on the “try”!) but if I’m in the mood to splurge, I would totally go for lemon cookies! Or lemon meringue pie! Of course I love chocolate just as much as any other girl, but I have a true weakness for anything lemon flavored. I love that perfect combination of sweet and sour!
Bella: I'd have to agree with you there! Well, thank you for joining us today, Vanessa! It's been a pleasure! ♥
If you loved this interview, you'll LOVE "The Coronation"! Keep up with Livy at her blog and Instagram for more details when "The Coronation" releases on July 6th! You don't want to miss it!!
We've all been there.
We've all had what the world has affectionately called a "crush." Girls, you know what I'm talking about. It's so easy for us to find a "cute" guy and start liking him. You start to feel butterflies in your stomach whenever he enters the room and you stumble over your words when you talk to him. And if the guy who has our eye starts showing us attention, then we're sure he must be "the one."
The thing is, feeling attraction for a guy or having a "crush" on him, is perfectly normal.
But we all know that normal things can be taken too far too.
So here are four signs that your crush has become an idol, and the ways you can put Jesus back on the throne of your heart:
1) He consumes all your waking thoughts. Yep, we know what this is like, don't we? A guy walks into our lives who shows us attention or who looks cute and suddenly he is all that we can think about. When this happens our family and friends have a hard time getting our attention, and we are often found staring out the window lost in thought. We allow everything to remind us of our crush and we listen to love songs that make us think even more about him. Girls, come on, you know you've done it too. But when we allow someone to control all of our thoughts, we are allowing them to have too much of our heart. Sweet one, your heart is special and priceless. A guy doesn't deserve part of it unless he is who God has for you. You know what else happens when we let a guy become all that we think about? We lose our focus on Jesus. When you're only thinking about that "special person" you don't have time to focus on your true Lover. You might be looking at me right now thinking, "I understand that, but it's so hard! I can't help it. I don't want to think about him, but I just do." And yep, I get that. But you are still in control of your mind and your thoughts. It is hard, you're right. But guarding our hearts and minds was never a guarantee to be easy. When thoughts of this boy start to consume your mind, determine in your heart to think of something else. You could decide that every time a thought of Him enters your mind, you could pray for his future wife, whoever that may be. Or you could pray for your future husband, whoever he may be. Maybe next time a thought of him enters your mind, you could call your best friend and just talk. Whatever it takes, get your thoughts on something else!
2) You start planning your wedding with him. Writing this makes me laugh, cause I know how easy it is for us to get to this point. Girls, we can sometimes be super dramatic (or wait, is that just me?), and if a guy starts talking to us, we can start planning how many bridesmaids we'll have at our wedding. Don't get me wrong, it's fun to think about your future wedding (I mean, come on, what girl doesn't have a someday wedding board on Pinterest? Just me again? Okay...). What I'm talking about here is when you start planning your wedding to a specific guy. Unless that guy has put a ring on your finger, he is not yours and you are not his. But I do know a truth for you: if God wills for you to get married, He does have the right guy for you picked out somewhere. And don't worry, when that right guy puts a ring on your finger, you'll have plenty of time to start wedding planning.
3) You compromise to get his attention. This one might be the most dangerous yet. When we start compromising our principles to get the attention of a young man, we are putting ourselves in a very dangerous position. Maybe you start dressing differently to catch his eye or you start doing things you know you shouldn't do to get him to like you. Whatever it is that you're compromising in, you are worth more than that. If you have to compromise to get his attention, he is not worthy of you and he is not who God has in mind for you. I can promise you that. So you stand your ground, you beautiful girl, and you wait for the one God has for you. Stand with Jesus.
4) You grow apart from Jesus because of him. Let's face it, if any guy in your life pulls you farther from Jesus instead of closer to Him, then this guy needs to go. I'm serious about that. If he is not making you fall deeper in love with Jesus, then he is not worthy of having you fall in love with him. If this is happening, I'm asking you to please cut him out of your life immediately. Your relationship with Jesus is the most important thing in your life. He is your true Love, He is your true Prince, and He is your Hero. No other relationship can perfectly satisfy you the way Jesus can. So please, if your crush starts causing you to grow away from Jesus, come running back. Run back to the arms of Jesus. It'll be the best choice you'll make.
Girls, you are a priceless treasure. You deserve the best and that's what God has in store for your future. Don't rush your story. Don't settle for less. Please. Yes, crushes are normal and you're going to have them because you're human and God created these emotions you're feeling. But when those feelings turn someone into an idol in your life, please evaluate your heart. Ask God to search your heart and keep it true to Him.
Fall in love with Jesus first, beautiful one. And when you do, everything else will fall into place.
"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life." (Proverbs 4:23)
It brings such a mix of emotions between the people who hear those words. Some are filled with joy and gratitude for the strong men in their lives who make them proud as their hero. Some are filled with hurt and loss for the men in their lives who weren't what they needed them to be.
I'm not here to talk about what fathers could do better or about why the role of a father is important.
Nope, instead I'm here to tell you about the Father who changed my life.
This is my Father's Day story from someone who grew up without an earthly dad.
I was five years old when He became real to me. I was eleven years old when I experienced His voice in the most true way I ever had. I was fourteen years old when I experienced His unconditional love and grace, even when I turned away. And now I'm twenty years old and I look back at these specific moments, but I also look back and see every moment, every year, in between and how faithful He was.
He was there with me when I took my first steps. He was there when I memorized my first Bible verse. He cheered when I wrote "the end" on my very first book. He smiled when I recited His words onstage in front of hundreds of people. And all along the journey of my life He has wooed me and drawn me closer to His heart. He has spoken truth, love, and light into my life since before I gave my first cry. He has protected, He has guided, He has held me every moment I have walked.
And because He didn't want eternity without me, He died to keep me.
So He did for you too.
You see, the same Father who has given me such an amazing story to celebrate today, has given it to you too! Whether you have an earthly father or not, your Heavenly Father is calling to you.
He wants to be your perfect Father. He wants you to be His child. His masterpiece.
He wants you. He loves you. He adores you. You are His. And whatever pain your past might hold from a father, He has something new to say to you:
"A father of the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in His holy habitation." (Psalm 68:5)
"But now, O Lord, You are our Father; we are the clay, and You our potter; and all we are the work of Your hand." (Isaiah 64:8)
He is our Father. He created us to be His children. With a love greater than any love on earth, He has loved you. With a song sweeter than any heard on earth, He has sung over you. With a joy greater than any known on earth, He has rejoiced over you.
So whatever Father's Day means to you right now, know this...you have the greatest Father ever. And He is crazy about you. You are His girl. Rejoice.
Happy Father's Day, Heavenly Father. You are my Rock, my Protector, my Joy, my Sanctuary...my Hero. Thank You for making me Your little girl. Thank You for being Mine. What a wonderful Father You are. I love You, Daddy... ♥
*throws some confetti and offers you a cupcake*
Friend, come on in and enter this little party, I'm so glad you're here! You see, today I am celebrating the 2nd anniversary--"blog-versary"--of my blog, Worth it All.
Although I did not create a Weebly blog account and set up this blog until June 11, 2015, this blog began in my heart years before that.
I don't remember exactly when I first had the idea, but when I was about thirteen and fourteen I really started aching to share my words with the world. At that point I'd been writing for several years and I was finally beginning to see that writing was what God had in mind for my life. I understood that He created me to speak to His people through the written word. It started like a spark in my heart, yearning to let other people read what I wrote, aching to inspire my generation with the truth of who God is and what He wants to do in their lives. That spark turned into a blaze that I couldn't ignore.
So June 11, 2015 I began this adventure of blogging.
Around this time I was releasing my first book, "I Dare You: Finding Your Passion and Lighting Your World," which would officially release a couple weeks later.
I fell in love with blogging over the last two years. I fell in love with being able to pour my heart into something that God would use to touch readers' lives.
So as I celebrate the 2nd blog-versary of this writing nook God gave to me, I have to first give Him the credit.
You see, it's so easy to get caught up in our accomplishments or in our dreams and think they happened because we wanted them to or we worked really hard. But the truth that I've learned over the last two years?
Every dream or accomplishment that comes true for us is because of God.
He is the reason I stand here today. He is the reason I picked up my pen and started writing. He is the reason I ached to inspire my generation. He is the reason I published four books. He is the reason I have my own magazine ministry that over 100 girls and women receive.
I look at these things and I am at a loss for words.
I am humbled that God would give me this platform to make a difference. I am honored that He would choose me to speak these words. Jesus, I'm overwhelmed. Thank You.
Don't look to me. Look to Him.
With that being said, I owe YOU a thank you too and I would love to sit down and have a cupcake with you for real if I could. Thank you for faithfully reading. Thank you for commenting. Thank you for making me smile. Thank you for giving me a chance. Thank you for letting my blog be a part of your life. Thank you. I couldn't be here without your support.
Finally, I want to end with one last thought.
I'm just a girl from the state of PA. I'm just a twenty-year-old who dreamed of changing her world.
But when you let God take control of your life and your dreams, they become His. Then it is no longer just a dream. Then you are no longer just a girl. They are His.
You are His.
And when something is His, He makes it amazing.
So you want to change the world?
Then what are you waiting for?
To God be the glory forever. Romans 11:36. ♥
Due to the subject of suicide discussed in this post, please get a parents permission for younger audiences.
When I first heard the plot of the new series 13 Reasons Why, I was a little bit shocked.
Before long, I was saddened and even heart broken. From movie reviews and articles I’ve read regarding the series, the content surprised me. There are so many movies out there today encouraging teens to do wrong, even harmful, things, or portraying something that goes against Scripture. But what hurt my heart most about this series is how it makes suicide appear. In this series, the main character who is actually dead, gives 13 reasons why she killed herself.
People may argue that this film promotes the end of bullying, or they may argue that it promotes everyone to be kind to others. I’d have to disagree.
Teenagers (coming from a young woman who has just recently left her teenage years) are very impressionable. As a teen, we are just beginning to grow up and we can be very heavily influenced by media, such as music, books, movies, or television. Because of this, it breaks my heart to think that any movie or TV series, no matter what it the show is, would romanticize suicide or make suicide look like an escape. Listen close, please. Suicide is neither an escape, nor is it beautiful in any way. It does not fix problems, it creates them. Suicide is not a way to get back at someone who hurt you. It only prevents you from having the opportunity to heal from your hurt.
So instead of writing an article giving my whole opinion on this movie, I chose instead to write my own article encouraging you that suicide is not the answer. These are my thirteen reasons why you should stay alive.
My 13 reasons why NOT to commit suicide.
1. You are loved. I think this world has a way of twisting our ideas of what love is. And I also think we all know that love isn’t really like a Disney or Hallmark movie. In the real world, love hurts, love is selfish, and love goes away. But the truth about this love is that it isn’t real. It’s a fake version of love. Real love is the God of the universe who sent His Son to die for a people who turned their backs on Him. Real love is Jesus dying on the cross when we still did not know Him and when we spit in His face. Real love is our Savior continuing to pursue us even after we continue to fail Him. That’s real love. A sacrificial, unselfish love. And here’s the thing, I know loving people hurts. Humans hurt each other. People you love may walk out on you, people you love may not return that love, and people you love may break your heart and trample on it. But that does not make you unloved or unlovable. Because the God who made you looks at you and calls you His beloved. He chases you and declares you loved. He gave up everything for you. He died on that cross for you, because He loved you. You are so beautifully, perfectly, and completely loved. And not one thing in this whole world can change that. (Romans 8:38-39)
2. You are a child of God. Some of you may have been hurt or wounded by your parents, because parents are human too. Some of you might not even know your parents. What I want to encourage you with is that you are a child of God and He is a good, perfect Parent. When He rescued us from our sins and died on that cross for us, He could've just said we could be friends or followers or even servants of Him. But He went way beyond that. He made you His child. And as a child of God you have purpose and meaning far beyond your wildest dreams. (1 John 3:1)
3. Your current situation won’t last forever. It may seem like it will, I know. But I promise you that it won’t. Do you remember how quickly the seasons seem to change? Summer always goes the fastest in my opinion. Before we know it though, winter has come and gone too. Just as the seasons change so quickly, so do our lives. One decision, one accident, one friend, one opportunity, one dream, can change it all. You may be in pain right now, you may feel like what you’re going through won’t end, but I promise you that this winter will end and summer will come one day. (Psalm 30:5)
4. God has a perfect and good plan for your life. If you’re anything like me, you’re a planner. Basically I mean I’m a five and ten year plan kind of girl. I plan out my entire life. But you know what? Life doesn’t always go according to our plans, does it? Accidents happen, the doctor’s diagnosis isn’t good, we lose our jobs, things just don’t always go how we think they should. But I also know that God is control of everything in your life. Nothing happens that He doesn’t see or plan. Yes, bad things happen because we’re human and we sin. We live in a sinful world. Yet that doesn’t mean God isn’t still in control, because He is. And His plans for you are good and perfect and meant to bring you closer to Himself. (Jeremiah 29:11)
5. You have an assignment. If you are breathing, you still have a purpose. If your heart is still beating, you still have a task to accomplish. You were put on this earth for a purpose and a reason and until you fulfill it, you are meant to stay here. God has a big dream for your life that is beautiful. He put people in your life that only you can reach. He put people in your path that only you can encourage. But if you’re gone, you can’t. You can’t leave until God has completed His perfect work in you. But if you’re reading this right now, your life and purpose isn’t complete yet. (Philippians 1:6)
6. Suicide does not fix the problem. God fixes the problem. Suicide is final. It can’t be taken back. It is not a way to get revenge on someone who hurt you. It is not the way to hurt the people who wounded you. Suicide only cuts off any chance of things getting better. Suicide only guarantees that the problem will not go away. God is for you and He will take care of what happened to you. He will restore what was taken from you and He will heal you and fix the problems, because He is the answer to everything. Revenge is His, not yours to take. (Romans 12:19)
7. You are a masterpiece. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Have you ever made something creative and worked really hard on it? Maybe you’re an artist and worked really hard on a special painting. Maybe you’re a writer and worked super hard on a new novel. Isn’t it an incredible feeling when it’s finally complete? As a writer, I know the joy and love of working on a writing project and finally finishing it. As a creative person, I know how much joy I find in my creative arts. So can you just imagine the joy God felt when He finished making you? Can’t you imagine the way He smiled when you were finally complete? He loved every part of you as He beautifully made you complete. (Psalm 139:13-14)
8. Every day is a new beginning. Sometimes guilt makes us feel like we can’t go on, doesn’t it? Because we’re human and sometimes we make mistakes that devastate others or destroy our own lives. And it can be hard to live with the guilt of the mistake or the consequence of the choice. But this is a promise from God: His mercy toward you is new every morning. Every time that sun rises again, it’s a new beginning. Every day is a chance to start over again. (Lamentations 3:22-23)
9. You are priceless. The world tries so hard to cheapen the value of our lives. It tries so hard to get us to act, talk, dress, and live in a way that is cheap. I think the devil tries so hard to get us to view ourselves as cheap, because he knows that if we knew how valuable we really are, we would be unstoppable. You are more valuable than you know, my friend. Your life has worth beyond what you can see. You are priceless to the King of the universe. (Matthew 10:29-31)
10. Someone is looking up to you. Whether you know it or not, someone is watching you. Little eyes are paying attention to what you do. A little sibling, a younger kid from youth group or school, little eyes on the field or watching you on a stage. Wherever you are, someone is watching you and they look up to you. If you take your life, you will destroy them. Give them a real example. Step up and give them a reason to look up to you. (1 Timothy 4:12)
11. You haven’t lived your whole adventure yet. Ever since I was a little girl, I have thrived on adventure. Yet sometimes life gets in the way of our crazy, little kid adventure fantasies. But you know what? Life itself is a beautiful adventure God is placing before you every day. And you haven’t lived your whole adventure yet. There are still new oceans to swim in, exotic foods to try, people to meet, roller coasters to ride, and mountains to explore. Don’t leave yet. Tomorrow is an unopened adventure waiting to be lived. (Hebrews 12:1-2)
12. You are not forgotten. Being forgotten is an awful feeling. It leaves us feeling used, broken, and unnoticed. Being forgotten makes us feel worthless, unseen. And inside all of us, we desperately want someone to see the real us. You know what God—the God who is crazy about you—says? He says that even a mother can forget her child, something that seems unfathomable to us. But even if a mother forgets her child, God will never forget you. You are fully seen, fully known, and fully remembered by the God of all creation. (Isaiah 49:15)
13. You are not alone. He is with you. Right here, right now. Jesus is standing with you, holding you. When everyone else walks out, He walks in and He holds you close. When everyone else abandons you, He holds you tighter. When your heart breaks, He holds it together. When your tears fall, He weeps with you. You are not alone. You may feel like it, I’m not denying that. But feelings lie. Feelings twist the truth and they make you forget what is really true. Listen close as I assure you that the truth is that God is with you right now. He will never leave you. You are not alone. (Psalm 23:4; Zephaniah 3:17; Psalm 34:18)
Don’t leave yet. You’re here for a reason. You’re here for such a time as this.
You are loved.
Don’t give up.
A big congratulations to the two winners of my giveaway for the launch of my brand NEW book, "Yes You Can"! :D
Winning the first place prize, which is a signed copy of my first book, "I Dare You," and a copy of "Yes, You Can," is... Carissa P!!
Winning the second place prize, which is a signed copy of "Yes You Can," is.... Grace B!!
Both of you should be receiving your prizes in the mail shortly. :) Thank you to everyone who entered the giveaway and helped spread the word about my new book! I'm so thankful for each of you! <3
If you still want my book but didn't win, don't worry because during the month of May "Yes, You Can" is on sale for only $5 (plus $3 shipping) each!! Pretty cool, right?! And each of my other books is only $10. :)
Happy reading and congratulations, winners! ♥
"Do you have a boyfriend?"
That common question that gets asked to just about every single girl at some point in her life. Oddly enough, it keeps getting asked earlier and earlier, even to girls in middle and high school. It's also the question that just about every single girl usually dreads. The question us single girls are tired of hearing.
After I turned sixteen years old it became so much more common to hear this question asked to me. Friends, family, people I knew years ago, strangers, you name it. It's the question everyone wants to know the answer to because the world is obsessed with this Hollywood idea of "love."
We've been taught it from a young age. We've been trained since we were children that someday our prince charming would come and rescue us and until he did we would just have to wait for him. Or worse. The world today now teaches girls that if our prince charming hasn't come along yet, we need to go find him and take control ourselves. We are taught to act, speak, dress, and flirt in a way that draws the attention of the opposite gender. You don't have a boyfriend? Well, change your wardrobe or hairstyle a bit and maybe he'll come knocking on your door. Or so they tell us.
Maybe that's why us single ladies hate this question so much. Because if we answer "no" to the question of whether or not we have a boyfriend, we know the dreaded follow up question that is bound to come next.
"Well, why not?"
Although casual dating is kind of a newer thing, wasn't around a couple hundred years ago, it's now considered the "normal," and it's "weird" if you aren't casually dating or you don't have a boyfriend. So naturally if you are single the world is going to wonder why. Most people will mean well and even genuinely want to help. Yet this question still brings up dread in the heart of the single girl.
Because the truth?
We sometimes wonder it ourselves, don't we? We ask this question ourselves in the back of our minds. Why don't I have a boyfriend? Is something wrong with me? Why doesn't anyone want to date me? Will anyone ever love me?
If not kept under control, us ladies can begin to panic, wondering why we actually don't have a boyfriend, and eventually begin to critique all the things that we think are wrong with us.
I'm 20 years old and I've never had a boyfriend.
According to the world that's pretty weird (Let's be honest here though, most of my life is weird to the world...). And trust me, if I had a dollar for every time someone asked me if I had a boyfriend, I'd be rich by now. Now if you think you can handle it, I'll even share something that probably makes me even weirder...
Not only have I never had a boyfriend, but I also don't believe in casual dating either. Yep, I expected shock for a reaction.
You see, beautiful friend, your don't have to chase after boy after boy trying to find a love that will satisfy or trying to keep up with the world's idea of love. Casual dating is just that, casual. It includes no commitment. Someday if God wills that I get married, I want to enter into a dating/courting relationship with the mindset being commitment. Because I know that God says I'm priceless. You're priceless too. So here are 5 reasons why having a boyfriend should not be your only goal...
1. Your single years are a gift. Oh, sweet girl, your singleness is such a beautiful gift given to you right now. Every season in our lives is unique and beautiful, and singleness is no exception. If you are single right now, God has a very important reason for that. If He wants you to get married one day, He will and He will bring that right man into your life at the perfect time, His time. So for now, your goal is not to chase him down and find him. Your goal is not to pursue him or flaunt yourself to win his affection. Your goal is to use your time wisely. You're young. You only get these years once. You won't be this young forever. Why don't you use this time to do something great for God? Start a ministry for girls, begin a Bible study, write a book, invest in your siblings, learn how to cook (I'm still working on this one...). Use your single years wisely because they are a gift to you and a gift that you only get once in your life.
2. You already have a Prince. When you make finding an earthly love your only goal in life, you leave no room to pursue your true Lover. You see, the true Lover of your soul has been pursuing you since the day you were born. He has quietly been wooing you with His love and giving you reason upon reason to fall in love with Him. He is crazy about you. His love is the only thing you will ever need. His love is all that will satisfy you. When Jesus Christ died on that cross to rescue you, He was saying that He loved you more than anything else and would give everything up just to be with you forever. When you are secure in His love for you, that's when you understand that you don't have to have a boyfriend to be satisfied. You are satisfied in your true Prince. Use the time you have now to invest in your relationship with Him.
3. Your worth does not come from a boyfriend. This is a big one, girls. So often it can be easy for us to place our worth in man. It can be easy to convince ourselves that if we don't have a boyfriend, we aren't worthy of love or we are worthless. Listen closely to me as I cup your chin in my hands and look into those beautiful eyes of yours. Your worth does not come from any boy. Your worth comes from Jesus and He says you're priceless. He says you're worth dying for because He loves you. No man or person can take that from you.
4. Having a boyfriend is not the only reason you're alive. Honestly, neither is getting married. While both of these things are good things in God's timing, they are not why He created you. They are not the only reason you are alive on this earth. If these good things are in God's plan for your life, they will happen in His perfect timing and they will be a part of His perfect plan for your life. But your goal in life, the reason you are alive, is to honor your Creator. The reason you are here is so much bigger than yourself. Your goal should be to bring glory to His Name (Psalm 115:1). Your purpose should be to follow His will, whatever that may be in your life.
5. There's more to life than just boys. If you disagree, then your life is very boring. (Quote taken from the amazing Rachel.) It's so true, ladies. Life is not just about boys, falling in love, and getting a boyfriend. There's a giant big world out there to adventure in and discover! You've got goals, dreams, plans, adventures to live! Life is super exciting. I look back on what God's done in my life over the last several years and I'm amazed at the adventure He's led me on. If I was so focused on getting a boyfriend, I might not have had the time or energy to experience this great journey God has for me right now. He's got an adventure for you too, beautiful princess.
Girls, no boy will be able to complete you, so don't spend all your time trying to find one that will. The only One able to complete you already has. He calls you His princess. He has given you a gift right now of this moment and He wants you to live it to the fullest. It's not time to whine or sulk about wanting a boyfriend and it's not time to go out and flirt until you find one. It's time to embrace your princess identity and enjoy every moment of your life. It's time to celebrate.
Oh, and the next time someone asks you if you have a boyfriend?
You tell them you already found your true Prince and His Name is Jesus. ♥
Isabella Morganthal (20) is a homeschool high school graduate who loves Jesus with all of her heart. She is a drummer, writer, creative arts director, and modern-day abolitionist.