Just the other day I was looking at my old homeschool prom dresses.
I looked at the Cinderella type dresses that made me feel like a princess and thought about how the dress twirled around my ankles when I spun around. I thought about the homeschool prom and how all of us girls who went had so much fun hanging out, dressing up, and laughing together. And (although I didn't participate in this part) I thought about all of the girls there who would have a handsome-looking guy come up to them and ask them a simple question. They all asked it in different ways, but it basically came down to:
May I have this dance?
Let's face it.
Girls have obsessed over guys for centuries. From batting their eyelashes at the guys from behind their fans at social gatherings, to stalking all the popular boy bands on Facebook and Twitter. From flirting and laughing about everything guys say to make them notice us, to even crossing boundaries that should never be crossed. Some girls have the "boy craziness" more so than others, but a touch of it does show up in all of us, ladies, admit it.
I don't know why God placed it so much on my heart today to write this article, but I know He did.
No, I won't be sharing with you how to get the guy at prom to ask you to dance. And I won't be sharing with you how to avoid all males to avoid this "plague" of boy craziness.
Funny enough, I won't even be sharing with you about my views on dating and courtship and purity (that's for another time).
But I do want to share with you about the One who wants to dance with you for the rest of your life.
Us girls have become so consumed with getting a guy to like us and to want us that we even compromise our principles to have someone just ask us to dance. And when I say dance, I don't just mean to a four minute song at prom once a year. I'm talking about the dance of your life. The dance that you perform every day for people to notice you and like you. The dance that plays music only you can hear sometimes.
And we crave that one guy to ask us, "May I have this dance?" Someone we can dance through life with and feel special with.
Yet there stands One in the middle of our dance floor with His hand outstretched to us.
And we don't even notice Him.
Maybe it's because we are so consumed with tracking the posts, tweets and likes of every guy on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.
Maybe it's because we are so focused on the guys that we call "perfect" and our endless pursuits to get them to like us.
Whatever the reason, we don't notice the One standing there with His hand outstretched every day.
And every day He whispers the same thing in our ears and we don't even hear it. Instead, we drown it out with the voices of the world telling us who to be to get all the attention or all the newest love songs that only distort true love in the end.
Yet He keeps whispering.
May I have this dance?
To every good princess story there is a knight in shining armor who comes to rescue the damsel in distress. Think about Prince Charming who comes to rescue Cinderella from the evil step-mother and step-sisters.
And we long to be those princesses. We long to have our own prince charming's to come rescue us.
But we miss it.
We miss the truth because we are looking in all of the lies that the world feeds us.
For you see, you are a princess.
A beautiful princess that has been carefully made by the Creator of the universe. A princess that has a royal duty in this life and your dance has a purpose much greater than yourself or all the false suitors who try to ask you to dance.
A princess who is so madly loved by the only One her heart could ever be satisfied by.
And you see, this is where the love story becomes even more mind-blowing.
The One who loves you, the One asking you to dance with Him every day, is the One who carefully crafted you and made you into who you are.
He is your Knight in shining armor, your Prince Charming, your Hero, and the true Lover of your soul.
And His Name is Jesus.
Girls, if you spend your life and your time trying to get a guy to love you and "dance" with you forever, you are truly only wasting your time.
In the end, even if that guy asks you to dance, you will be left empty. And you will even be left hurting more than when you started your quest for true love.
Because guys aren't the ones that our soul is searching for.
Our soul is searching for the Creator who made us and our true Love.
When we spend our lives dancing with Him and loving Him, we find true fulfillment and true joy.
It's where we find true love.
Only in Him.
So love Him, girls. Love Him with all of your heart. Put away your Instagram and let go of your constant striving for guys to like you, and live for Him. Live to make Him happy and to make Him proud. Live to impress Him.
When you love Him with all of your heart, your life will change. His love will change you from the inside out like nothing else in this world can. You will be His beautiful princess and He will be your Prince.
And one day, if it's His will, He'll bring your earthly prince charming into your life in His perfect timing. And it will be beautiful.
But for now, stop your striving to believe all the world's lies of who you have to be and what you have to do. Guard your heart and place it in the hands of the only One who can keep it safe.
And in the meantime, listen...
Listen for that whisper in your ear every morning when you wake up. The whisper from your true Love beckoning to you to dance through your day with Him alone...
May I have this dance?
Then take His hand.