I have never been good at saying no. I am known to say yes until I burn myself out or overwhelm myself to the point of crashing. Maybe it's because I don't like to disappoint people. Or maybe it's because I don't want to miss out on the good things I could be participating in. Or maybe it's because I love helping people out. Or maybe it's even because I want to do as much as I can to make a difference in the world. Or maybe it's all of that combined but either way, saying no is really, really hard for me. Perhaps you can relate. Sometimes it's so much easier to say "yes" even when we don't feel like it or don't believe it's what God has for us next or don't have the time for it, simply because we don't want to disappoint anyone. But here's something that 2018 has taught me: If we're constantly saying "yes" to good things, then we're going to have no room in our schedule to say "yes" to the best things God has for us. God didn't create us to do everything. He didn't create us to say yes all of the time, 24/7. You see, there are three things that are going to happen when you say yes all of the time: You are going to burn out. You are going to fill your schedule so full that you miss God's best. You are going to become bitter. Constantly saying yes can cause us to lose our joy in ministering, in obeying, and in serving. It really is OK to say no. In 2018 I have learned that. I have learned that when I am requested to put together a writing project, it's okay to sometimes say no when schedule is already full. I have learned that it's okay to say no to the party I was invited to because I already have so much going on that week and I simply need time to rest in God. I have learned that it's okay to let my friend know that while I love them dearly, I just don't have the time in my schedule right now to fulfill the favor they're asking. I have learned that it's okay to put boundaries on things. And it's okay for you too. Yet how do you know when to say no or when to say yes? Well, think about the last time you felt overwhelmed and pulled down by a yes you said that you regretted later. Did you pray about it first? Did you check your schedule and consider if you really had the time for that commitment? Did you ask God if He had something better for you? There are times to say no and times to say yes, but it's okay to not always say yes. Sometimes when we say no, we're leaving our schedule open for the best God has coming our way. 1/13/2019 01:28:11 am
I loved the point you make in this post, it's so important to know when to say yes and when to say no to have the perfect, healthy balance❤️ Comments are closed.
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